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chillin'When you write you must be both self aware and other-aware; a student of the human condition. Many writers would make great philosophers. You ever notice how it's always the little things that create relational destruction?
For instance, I hate having stuff touch the bottom of my feet so when the floors not swept all the time I get upset at my wife or kids. It's really not a big deal and a very small thing but I, at times, let it grow big and turn into a big "stinky butt".
In writing when you're developing a relationship between characters remember the little things: the stuff people that annoys each other; the stuff people do that charm one another; the things like voice inflection that drives someone crazy -- my oldest son has a way of saying things that makes my nerves raw but he doesn't even know he's doing it sometimes.
We all need to lighten up in our relationships. So what if the counter's not wiped off ever second of the day and who cares if there's stuff in the middle of the living room?
Remember, you fell in love with someone, got in a relationship with someone, married someone, chose to live with someone because of who they are (unless it's a purely sexual thing), and not for who you would turn them into. If there's someone in your life and you're trying to "make" them behave a certain way or do it your way -- stop. If it's not working now it's not gonna ever work and you'll just create resentment and drive them away.
Be nice and treat each other like roommates and note someone you own, because you don't. Unrealistic expectations and believing you have a "right" to certain behaviors will generally always kill a relationship unless it's so horribly abusive that one person is beaten into submission and can never leave or get out.
Anyway, watch the little things in life, it'll make your writing richer.
rock the world and keep writing
Darrin Coe
Don't forge to check out my short story "the mithril scale" at: http://www.aburt.com/ifiction/stories/76/
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